How to succeed at self-sabotage.
The diet has been stalled a bit, and its not for lack of trying, but rather focusing on the symptom rather than the disease. If you have never tried meditation, I strongly suggest you give it a whirl. The point is to address the root cause of being overwight and eating too much or eating the wrong things. Every one of us has some level of neurotic issues, and some of us self medicate with the pleasure of food.
This is my current meditation:
1. Sit in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. I need to sit upright in a chair with my feet flat on the floor. Set a timer for 15 minutes to start.
2. The point is to calm your mind by stopping the constant fireworks of thought, which is filled with angst, worry, fear, and all the other negative side effects of dealing with life.
3. I breathe deeply, just relaxing and constantly guiding my mind back to stillness and emptiness. Its often been referred to as gently lovingly guiding a puppy that is wondering all around your living room peeing on everything. Don’t force it, just keep guiding yourself back to stillness gently. Just the shift back to stillness is success, not necessarily keeping your mind still.
4. I then imagine my mind being a sponge, and all day (all week, all year, all life) long it has picked all kinds of negativity. Fear, hate, self-loathing, anger, frustration, lonliness, longing, anxiety, just everything everyone’s mind keeps picking up.
5. I exhale and gently squeeze that sponge and all the nasty stuff runs out between my fingers. I inhale and the sponge takes on fresh mountain spring water. Exhale, and more dirt and grime flush out. Imagine all the dirt and grime and nastiness flushing out, while the sponge comes clean and starts to show the beautiful colors it picked up during the day. All the good things that happened have colored the sponge a beautiful pattern, and that can’t be washed out. Colors of love, happiness, compassion, self-love, gratefulness, self-worth, character, courage, and sunlight. I keep rinsing that sponge under that mountain spring and I revel in its beauty, because that beauty is in all of us, no matter how much grime we have picked up. You just have to work at it sometimes. Use all of your senses when imagining the sponge, how foul and slimy and stinky that dirty sponge is and as it comes clean how soft, fresh smelling, and even the sound it makes as all the soap suds come out and its just spring water.
This can take a little practice, when I discipline myself to meditate twice a day I can generally make great progress. Then I take it for granted and start skipping and going backwards! Good luck.
I might have to give this a whirl:
"Some researchers have developed a method where they say, if something is nagging at us, write about it in the third person so we can look at it as objectively as we can as opposed to immersing ourselves in a negative experience. That kind of distance can be really helpful to change our story and to look at it in a new way and give new meaning to it.
I think I try to do this sometimes. I remind myself that my interpretation of something is just that—an interpretation. It’s not the only way. Sometimes it’s good to to look at a situation the opposite way as an exercise.”